Friday 10 June 2016

Confession of an Outsider

Note: This poem summarises my stay in the university I came to for postgrad. The uni had its good, bad and ugly sides. This poem focuses mostly on the bad.

Your crevices are choked with smoke,
with empty cups of tea, 
with the constant, lingering smell of petrichor, sweat and dog.

I despise you for your classes full of shit, 
for your buds of drama scattered across the AV room,
for materialising that godforsaken coffee machine right out of my memory,
and for tempting me with the bad coffee I love;
It is cheaper—it offends me.

As soon as I arrived at your doorstep, I knew I’d never belong to you.
I sat against the ledge, writing an answer on Hope, 
and felt like I could be one of your dysfunctional cells: 
I can’t—my home resides in my head; 
I'm dysfunctional differently.

I found love lurking on your rooftops, 
photographic metaphors for poetry I identify with—
“...like two strangers after a long correspondence, finally meeting.”
Bits of home-that-was found me here and left again,
and for a while,
I was grounded in the corners that were yours but changed, different.

I learned not to be afraid of dogs, 
I learned to make Vitruvian books, 
I learned to breathe without choking on the cigarettes I keep trying to quit. 
I never learned how to be yours.

That puzzle piece that never fit anywhere in the jigsaw is me,
That mime on the stage is me,
That alien taking the last UFO out of this world is me.

*
Es regent stark,
Und ich werde dich vermissen.

Sunday 24 April 2016

Accidental Misogyny

A meme has been making rounds of Facebook recently, where in one panel, the girl is standing with a board that says, "India needs Feminism because I don't need to pay him to marry me", and in the other panel, the same girl is standing with a board that now reads, "I don't need to pay him to marry me. But I will not marry a guy who doesn't own a house, a 7 digit salary, and a car".

The reason this post is called accidental misogyny is because this meme is very easy to misinterpret. We all have those people (women, in particular) in our lives who are okay with arranged marriages if it ensures financial stability. So, we see the truth of the second panel completely, and the double standard between the first panel and the second panel is apparently hilarious, so we laugh and share it. 

But people (particularly men) who are sharing this: India needs Feminism because it is not okay for your family and your intended and her family to expect you to be the only one who brings what constitute as financial luxuries to the marriage. You are also one of the people who are disenfranchised by patriarchy because along with forcing the woman to sell herself for a price, it also expects you to meet and maintain unnecessarily high standards throughout your life. Both parties are at a disadvantage here. She is not better off because you are rich: it is still not her money. If she's a sensible person, she'll value working for her own money than taking yours, or will at least contribute to the marriage in equal terms. 

If you refuse to "buy" her and she brings as much financial stability to the table as you do, India will be a much better place and your marriage, a happier one. So, don't be an accidental misogynist and cynically believe that any woman would marry you if you are rich enough: a lot of women have been fighting for their right to work and their right for equal pay for a long time to settle for anything less than their own money. 

Sunday 3 January 2016

Write Away!

So, I have a friend who doesn't think her writing is good enough. And another friend who thinks her writing isn't good enough And another friend... well, you get the point. So, the purpose of this post is how to make you realise that your writing is less shitty than you think it is (because I have just been called a chill advice dispenser, and I take my duties seriously). Make sure you've got the ingredients right, and don't be too harsh on yourself!

1. PRACTICE
See, practicing writing all genres is extremely important. There is always room for improvement when you write, and if there are nitty-gritties in your writing that bother you, you can always resolve them through practice.

2. FEEL YOUR GENRE
I have friends who believe that practicing writing engenders talent. I disagree. I feel like we're all formed from our experiences and our writing styles reflect that. Some people are more comfortable writing humor, some are more inclined to writer murder mysteries, some can write funny murder mysteries. Through practice, you need to figure out what your genre is (or are, if you have multiple genres that you can write). 

3. RECONCILIATION
The genre you feel might not always correspond to what you're interested in. For example, I am interested in psychological thrillers but I can't write them--they're not my genre. On the other hand, Indian marriage scene is not something I'm interested in, but I can write it well enough (I guess). So yeah, you need to find a way to reconcile what you're interested in and the genre(s) you can write.   

4. EUREKA MOMENTS
Writing is not always a thing you can do at will. It's like food--if you force it too much, it comes out like crap. While I believe that writing is something that you have to work for, I also believe that there are moments of inspiration that you have that ease the process of writing (in the food metaphor, these moments of inspiration are like water). 

 5. START WITH THE BASICS
Strengthen your plot-making skills, characterisation, descriptions, etc. to feel better about your writing.

6. STOP OVER-ANALYSING YOUR WRITING.

7. ASK FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S HONEST INPUT.
This will only make your writing better, even if your pride takes a thrashing. It hurts (a lot), but it helps you grow. 

Happy writing! 
(Also, if you guys want me to look over your writing, just message the page on Facebook!)